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o Anger with God: AmericanCatholic
o Anger built into Western culture: SelfEsteem


o EmotionalPain
If only you would pray for others and take up your suffering as Christ did—not as self-punishment, but as a gift of forgiveness to others—then you would no longer need to hide your pain and you would no longer be terrified of your own capacity for anger; then you could listen honestly to your family and friends, to bear their anger without flinching from it, and to help them heal their pain and take up their own crosses....

Pray, therefore, that the healing process will happen within you. But pray for it specifically: 1) Ask God that you will be enlightened... 2) Ask God for the courage to see the truth of your life, especially its ugly and embarrassing resentments and temptations, especially those that lurk in the darkness of your unconscious... 3) Ask God for the strength to not flinch from the pain of seeing the truth about yourself... 4) Ask God that everything you do will be directed to your purification from anger and hostility and resentment and victimization...

When someone hurts you, resist the temptation to respond with sarcasm or arguments or hostility or cursing—or self-blame and self-punishment. Look to divine justice, not to bitter revenge... Just say, “All right. This is teaching me something, and in due time I will understand. Right now I don’t know why this is happening, but since this is what You want, then I will accept it. I trust in You in all things. But it hurts! So please give me the strength and courage to get me through this.”... It is not always within your power to control your feelings. You will recognize that you have love if, after having experienced annoyance and contradiction, you do not lose your peace, but pray for those who have made you suffer and wish them well... [Warning]: you might still be assaulted with temptations to revenge for several hours following the insult...

In all things, God desires us to treat each other with the same love He has for us. Therefore, wanting someone to be emotionally or physically hurt removes you from God’s service and places you in the service of the devil. Consequently, just the thought of hurting someone is a sin—but being a venial sin (so long as it is an inner desire, rather than an outward act) it can be absolved with perfect contrition. An actual act of revenge toward another person that results in real harm is a mortal sin, and must be absolved formally through the Sacrament of Reconciliation... The more unconscious anger there is hidden in your heart, the more emotional anguish and turmoil you will feel because of any injury.

What if it is the devil tripping you up, rather than God intervening for your instruction? How do you tell the difference? Well, you don’t have to know the difference. Just accept everything gracefully as a glorious act of obedience to God. If the devil trips you up and discovers that his efforts result in glorifying God, he will get tired of you very quickly and leave you alone...